Neutrality Isn’t Love — It’s Enabling Harm

Note: This reflection continues the inquiry into sovereignty, accountability, and the misuse of “love and light” neutrality, from my last post, "Gen Z and the Collapse of Religious Shame: A Lesson in Sovereignty"

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Neutrality isn’t love. It’s enabling.

Two days ago - on Thursday 11 Sept, I had to put down and bury my chicken Henny Penny, I felt the same heaviness in the air that later exploded with the news of Charlie Kirk’s assassination. This is what I saw, and this is what I need to say 👇

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This video/reel below — this paralysis in thinking has been flying around for a while.

Let me be crystal clear: I am not pro-guns and I am not pro-violence.

But this paralysis of thought? It’s bleeding power out of people. It feeds dis-empowerment. It enables abuse to run unchecked.

That morning, after early Pilates, I came home to find Henny Penny — our little flock's fierce leader — with her insides hanging out her behind. A prolapse. Yesterday she’d been fine, grazing. Today, her body collapsed. I called the vet. The verdict was - she had to be put down.

I couldn’t do it. I had to phone a friend. It was done, and my kids and I got to bury and thank her together, for the last two years supporting and providing us so well.

I kept asking myself: Why this day? Henny was perfectly fine, grazing yesterday.

By late afternoon, the news broke: Charlie Kirk assassinated.

The air was heavy that day, from early morning. It was charged., something just felt off.

After the assassination exploded on social media, reels like this one began:

“Violence is never okay.”

“Stay in love.”

“Polarity and separation divides, this is what 'dark agenda' wants.”

Do I agree that polarisation and separation isn’t the answer and feeds dark agenda - they want division - YES!

But let’s translate what reels like this one below — really means on ground-level:

·       Apathy.

·       Disconnection.

·       Responsibility washed off.

·       All action against harm demonized.

·       Neutrality weaponized to protect dark systems.

✨ Neutrality can be enabling.Apathy feeds abuse. Staying uninvolved protects dark systems.✨

This is gaslighting, dressed in spiritual robes.

Because real love isn’t passive. Love doesn’t look away while abuse happens. Love is not neutrality.

I had to kill my chicken — does that make me a “chicken killer”? No. 

Reels like these and the like CONFUSE “Intention” with “Action".

A woman who kills her rapist isn’t a murderer. She’s defending her life. Law even calls it what it is: self-defense, and absolves the victim.

But today’s personal-development culture teaches people to float above their body, to “perform love” instead of feeling and listening to their instincts. To bypass the very emotions and intuition that scream: something is off.

And the result? No action. 

No action = Enabling

✨ Same action. Different intention.

Euthanizing a chicken ≠ animal cruelty.

Self-defense ≠ murder.

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We were given bodies, instincts, hands, and hearts to shape reality. Meditation has its place. But meditate 100% of the time, hermit in the neutral glow of love and peace -- and nothing ever changes.

So am I saying the assassination was “right”? No. It was extreme.

But if I’d been in that geographic place as head of that campus, I would never have allowed Kirk to set foot or speak on campus. To protect the students I had duty of care over. And I don’t care whether you accuse me of oppressing freedom of speech. 

His words weren’t free speech. They were targeted abuse. Misogyny. Homophobia. Transphobia. Corruption disguised as mentorship, landing damage in the bodies and minds of these young listeners.

Charlie Kirk wasn’t a mentor to youth. He was a corrupter of youth.

And yes, his son lost a father. But what legacy did Kirk leave? 

A healthy path for his son would be to tell that boy the honest truth: Of his father’s words and conduct. To show that words have weight. Abuse backfires. Consequence always lands. Hopefully, he isn’t raised in twisted fanaticism as to see his father as a martyr, but as a cautionary tale.

That’s accountability.

So I put it to you:

·       What do you stand for?

·       Do you bypass your healing, or integrate it?

·       Do you stay in your body, listening, with conduct aligned with your instuition?

·       Do you act when the tug comes, or sit in apathy?

We didn’t come here to play hypocritical “love and light” while children, women, and communities are abused.

It all boils down to intention.

Stop demonizing all action as if it springs from the same motive.Kill shame. 

Kill the people-pleaser in you.

Trust your instincts.Act and speak from integrity.

Because your children are watching.

Our children are watching.

✨ If you know who you are, you won’t lose yourself by acting.

Integrity is when your instincts, values, and actions line up — without apology.✨

LASTLY - And for the record — anyone who says, “if you fight back, you become just like the oppressor, you’re promoting violence” — This is gaslighting.

And this argument only works on people with no clear sense of self - fearing they will become their worst nightmare or their enemy.

If you know who you are, there is no danger of corruption. 

You act from clarity. You hold your integrity intact. 

You don’t give a rat’s ass what anyone thinks. You don’t explain. You don’t apologize. You own it.

So I ask you again: What are you an ambassador for?